Here's a few quotes from one of my favorite books. "IF" by Amy Charmichael

"If
the praise of men elates me and his blame depresses me; if I cannot rest under misunderstanding without defending myself; If I love to be loved more than to love,
to be served more than to serve,
then I know nothing of Calvary love."

"If a sudden jar can cause me to speak
an impatient, unloving word,
then I know nothing of Calvary Love*

*For a cup full of sweet water cannot spill even one drop of bitter water, however suddenly jolted. James 1:26 3:2-3

If
I say, "Yes, I forgive, but I cannot forget,"
as though the God,
Who twice a day washes all the
sands on all the shores
of all the world
could not wash such memories from my mind,
then I know nothing of Calvary love.